Earn your confidence & believe in it.

I am kind. 
I am selfless. 
I am understanding and I am open minded. 
I am strong. 
I am independent. 
I know who I am and I don't let any one else's opinions change that. 
I am confident. 
I am bold. 
I am open and I am honest. 
I am generous. 
I am friendly. 
I am quirky and I am fun. 
I am myself without compromising, knowing that I am always growing and I am always learning. 


Once you have confidence in yourself as a person and as a member of whatever communities you value, outside judgements or negative perspectives will not effect you. Harmful words or behavior will represent those who act with them. You will feel peaceful knowing you are understood by yourself and that is all that matters. Energy taken to explain yourself will be saved because you will know in your heart no explanation is necessary. You will naturally sort out situations that can do good and situations that need to be left alone. Using your energy only for positive influence and leaving what is out of control untouched. Once you believe in yourself, life is a freedom you get to enjoy. 


Notice unsettling situations that you may be able to alter outcomes in. You are in control of your reactions. If something upsets you, ask yourself if there's something you can do to feel free from that. If there isn't, you can choose to accept what is out of your control and release any worry within the greater emotion. You will never feel 100% all the time, but you have the ability to persuade your reactions and lessen negativity which will ultimately bring you more happiness and overall confidence. Challenges don't seem so bad when you begin to overcome them with grace. Fake a smile to remind yourself how much nicer it feels. Practice patience and deep breathing so you don't get ahead of yourself with reaction. Try to keep an open mind that your views can change and the way you see things will adjust. No one is perfect and no one is happy all the time, but the less hard you are on yourself and others, the lighter living becomes.