You can't touch my inner peace.

​When I feel my peace is compromised by someone else’s actions, I self-reflect. Nobody has the right to take away my serenity. There has got to be a way all the work I do on self-improvement can stick through these hurdles. The strength I’ve acquired through monumental suffering shouldn’t even be touched by someone else’s behavior. Feeling disrespected or misunderstood can be incredibly frustrating. But does it have to be?

What gives me the right to judge someone else’s behaviors unjustifiable? I know I’ve done things in my life I don’t want defining my character. Said hurtful things, made mistakes handling situations, lost my patience. Maybe I was having a bad day and dealing with people wasn’t my strong suit for the moment. Hopefully I learned from regret. Took responsibility and turned guilt into growth. I know now I would never wish to add stress to anyone’s life, so I choose to assume the same for others. 

While I’d love to believe everyone is good and no one means any harm, let’s say these actions are with malicious intent. Nasty, unapologetic, inconsiderate. Why should this person’s bad choices take me down too? I’ve come so far. Learned so much. Built a life for myself I respect. Molded a mind powerful enough to defeat any obstacle. This person’s behavior reflects lack of decency on their behalf. But, it’s a chance to practice my patience. An opportunity to demonstrate my character. Forgiving but strong. I won’t tolerate disrespect but it doesn’t always deserve a fight. 

Knowing when to stay out of the ring is a vital piece of success. I don’t have to compromise my peace of mind to battle these hiccups. With practice, I can maintain an understanding that will protect my inner peace. I control my actions, and my actions only. I will stay true to my character. Remain polite, humble, and kind. I will not let stubbornness or pride get in the way of my life’s purpose. I never want someone to feel worse because of an interaction they had with me. If I can’t make this person feel better, I can only hold myself accountable for my reactions. Put out into the world what I stand for and stay unbothered by those who disagree. 

My parents raised me to be respectful and open-minded. To think before I act. Take responsibility for my mistakes and how to communicate effectively. They encourage me to be aware of different upbringings and what that may mean for someone else’s path. Show compassion to those who are struggling. Offer love and guidance when I can. We’re all only human. Of course we experience a whole spectrum of emotions. While I can’t ignore when something makes me upset, I can strategize ways to not be upset further. Nip it in the bud and come back to calm. I remember who I am. The incredible influences I’ve been lucky enough to meet throughout my life. Some of the biggest hearts and most level headed people I know have their frustrations and times of regret, but I trust them to always put effort into making it right. Right for all those involved, including themselves. If I work on myself every day, my inner peace should be strengthened and never sacrificed.