It’s saddening to watch others struggle with anything, let alone the will to live. In a truly positive turn of events in my own life, I am now actually losing sight of what that felt like for me. Feeling less attached to a lack of motivation and more sorrowful for others being stuck there. While my transformation was triggered by the realization of my medicine’s depressive side effects, most people don’t get as direct a jumpstart into their new life. So what can I suggest to someone struggling and stuck feeling unmotivated? The will to live isn’t something you find, it is something you choose.
There are a million and more excuses to avoid joy and linger on negativity. Glued to trauma and self-disdain. Overwhelmed by school, work or general frustration with the madness of the world. If we work through these issues convinced unhappiness is inevitable, the choice to feel fulfilled has been rejected. However, if we consider the work itself to be rewarding, appreciate each moment and take from it what we can, the goal to find joy is attainable right now.
While it might take years to understand the immediate gratification that begins with a positive attitude, it takes one moment to practice gratitude and find joy from any circumstance. There is nothing more persuasive than trusting the power we have over our own mentality. No spouse, dog, body, job, home, car, etc. will bring you the will to live if you’re unwilling to commit to a positive attitude.
I’m sure it feels like a long road ahead. Maybe working with therapists, diving into personal traumas, readjusting daily scheduling to provide a better sense of relief. But the one thing I can guarantee, once the work has been truly started, the pressure of if it “will stick” will feel less weighted. The pressure of “a long road ahead” will dwindle and “working” towards a fulfilling life will feel more like a hobby. Confidence will be gained in self ability to transform any mood. Want to be happy? Want to feel healthier? Need a break from stress? These skills will be built when the choice to take action has been made.
Choosing health and self-growth means accepting your dreams into reality. It’s why I tell anyone who comes to me looking for guidance that they’re already halfway there. A vision is set into motion as soon as it is manifested. Sometimes sparked by a new friendship, a dream for the future, an experience or a place that inspires a different kind of hope. But what does it take to have a fulfilling life? Wanting one. Choosing one everyday. Trusting the simplicity of reworking self-thoughts to provide an environment that is sustainable. An environment that feels exciting to live in.
Lindsay Greenberg, providing perspective on how to live a magical life.